Dutch online magazine ‘Ze.nl’
The originally Dutch article ‘Ik ben gigolo’, from the Dutch online magazine ‘ze.nl’, can be read here. Text by Jet. The translated text of the article is written out below.
“I’m a gigolo!”
“I was born and raised in a village in the Liemers region, just east of Arnhem, and had a typical, down-to-earth childhood. At the age of 21, I met my (now ex-)girlfriend, and we lived together in Arnhem for fourteen years.
Two years into our relationship, she experienced a serious burnout due to work. During that time, her desire for intimacy faded, and to my surprise, she suggested that I visit a so-called “lady of pleasure” from time to time. I was taken aback — the idea had never even crossed my mind.”
Swingers clubs
“Visiting a prostitute never really appealed to me. But through word of mouth, I discovered Swingers Club Kasteel Waterloo in Beesel. This club is known for welcoming sexually open-minded couples — and unlike many other swingers’ clubs, single men are also allowed. After my very first visit, I was hooked. It felt like heaven on earth. I started going almost every Friday — a perfect way to kick off the weekend.
The next morning, I’d tell my girlfriend all about it. She loved hearing my stories and wholeheartedly supported my pleasure. I explained to her that the women who visited the club were genuinely enthusiastic about sex and eroticism.
When she started feeling better after a two-year period of recovery, I asked if she might be open to trying it together. Over the weeks that followed, we talked about it openly, and eventually made our first joint visit to a clean, friendly swingers’ club.
During our first three visits, we didn’t swap partners yet — she needed time to adjust. But soon she got more comfortable, and in the years that followed, we visited various clubs across the Netherlands and Germany, usually twice a month.
The fact that our relationship ended later had nothing to do with eroticism. We still see each other every week, and share a warm connection.”
Becoming a gigolo
“The idea of becoming a gigolo first came to me after reading an article in Heleen van Royen’s magazine Stout. She described how hard it was to find a decent gigolo — and that the one she eventually found wasn’t very good at all. When I mentioned this to my ex, she said, “You should do this!” Over the years, I had gained a lot of experience and had received more and more compliments from women about the way I made love. I had come to realize that I had truly mastered the craft — as far as that’s possible, of course. My ex encouraged me to take the leap into this unusual profession.
Before starting, I did a lot of online research — both in the Netherlands and Germany — and quickly noticed that the standard among male escorts was disappointing, to say the least: often vulgar and lacking class. I also learned through various sources that being a full-time gigolo isn’t financially sustainable for most men.
That’s why I’ve always combined it with my other profession. I’ve run my own business services company for over five years now — that’s how I make a living. Working as a gigolo is something I do in my spare time, out of passion rather than profit.”
Fulfilling
“I find it deeply fulfilling to help a woman truly enjoy eroticism. With patience, respect, warmth, and a human touch, I often succeed in guiding her past any hesitation. When I can help someone rediscover pleasure and feel good about herself, that gives me real satisfaction. And when a woman enjoys herself, I enjoy it just as much. Every encounter feels exciting and meaningful.”
How much is a date?
“The cost for a first date is €300 for 3 to 4 hours, all-inclusive. If the meeting takes place in a hotel, the cost of the room is additional. When you factor in travel time, fuel, and the cost of supplies and clothing, it’s clear this isn’t a money-making venture. But that’s not what drives me — I genuinely enjoy what I do. Helping a woman fully experience erotic pleasure gives me real satisfaction.”
Reaching out…
“For many women, reaching out to a gigolo can feel like a big step. Usually, this starts with a few messages or emails before we set up a meeting. I always share some photos of myself — first without showing my face, then with my face, and finally in underwear. This first contact helps me get a sense of what the woman or couple is looking for and their experience level. I’m basically available around the clock to make it easy.”
Groups of clientele
“Generally, my clientele can be categorized into four groups, each about equal in size.
1. Single young ladies
They’re curious, open-minded, and enjoy the thrill of planning a sensual and sexual experience just for themselves.
2. Couples
These include modern, open-minded couples who see a threesome as the icing on the cake, as well as those where the man enjoys seeing his partner with another man — and the woman is turned on by being watched by her husband.
3. Divorced women
The majority are recently divorced and caring for young children. Another group is also separated, but with adult children and more personal freedom.
4. Married women
Many of these women are stuck in relationships that lack emotional and physical intimacy. A smaller group has partners who are simply too busy, leaving them feeling lonely and longing for something more.”
Fantasies come true!
“Many women need time to become fully aroussed, and I always respect that. I usually begin with a gentle, non-erotic relaxation massage, while she keeps her bra and panties on – simply to help her unwind and feel at ease.
The second phase is a more sensual massage, focusing on her neck, back and buttocks. This naturally flows into a third phase, where I gently caress the face, stomach and breasts, slowly deepening the connection and building anticipation.
And then…it’s time to make fantasies come true. For instance, many women heve never experienced a G-spot orgasm or female ejaculation (squirting) – something I can gently guide them towards, if they’re curious.
I always practice safe sex and use condoms without exception. Even with these precautions, I still get tested regularly for STIs — and I’m happy to say I’ve never tested positive.”
Skilled lover…
“In the Netherlands, ladies of pleasure are visited millions of times a year — it’s not called the world’s oldest profession for nothing.
For men, it’s widely accepted: a way to blow off steam, to relax, to escape the pressures of daily life. But women are often raised with a very different message — to be ‘proper,’ to feel guilt or even shame around their desires.
It’s time to let go of that double standard. For many women, spending a few hours with a skilled, attentive lover would be not only liberating, but incredibly healthy.”
~Would you ever think about booking a gigolo, or is that not for you?~