Dutch online magazine ‘Ze.nl’
The originally Dutch article ‘Ik ben gigolo’, from the Dutch online magazine ‘ze.nl’, can be read here. Text by Jet. The translated text of the article is written out below.
“I am a gigolo!”
“I was born and raised in a ‘Liemers’ village, east of Arnhem, where I had a normal childhood. When I was 21 years old, I met my now ex-girlfriend with whom I lived in Arnhem for fourteen years. After two years she suffered a burnout due to her work and she suggested that I occasionally visit a, in Dutch so called, ‘lady of pleasure’, since she herself had little need for eroticism during her illness. I was astonished because this had never occurred to me.”
Swingers clubs
“Visiting a ‘lady of pleasure’, or a prostitute, did not really appeal to me and through the grapevine I came across Swingers Club Kasteel Waterloo in Beesel. Sexually active couples come here and – unlike many other swingers’ clubs – single men are also welcome here. After my first club visit I was sold: it was heaven on earth. I then visited the club almost every Friday; a wonderful start to the weekend. The next morning I told my girlfriend how I had had it. She loved it and gave me the pleasure wholeheartedly.
I told her that the women who came to a club really enjoyed sex and eroticism and when my girlfriend felt better again after two years I asked her if she might want to try this too. In the following weeks we discussed the subject further and eventually made our first joint visit to a nice, neat swingers’ club.
During our first three visits to the club we did not swap partners yet, my girlfriend still had to get used to it. After that she also mastered it and in the years that followed we visited different clubs in the Netherlands and Germany on average twice a month. The fact that our relationship ended had nothing to do with eroticism and we still see each other every week.”
Working as a gigolo
“The reason why I offered myself as a gigolo was because of something I read in Heleen van Royen’s magazine ‘Stout’. She described how difficult it was to find a gigolo and that the one she found was not very good at it.
When I told my ex about this, she said, “You should do this!” I had gained a lot of experience over the years and gradually received compliments from women about my way of loving. I now knew that I had mastered the ‘craft’ (as far as you can say). My ex encouraged me to enter this special kind of profession…
I did online research in the Netherlands and Germany in advance and came to the conclusion that the level of gigolos who offered themselves was deplorable (read: vulgar). I had now also understood from various studies that men cannot actually make a living from being a gigolo. In addition to my life as a gigolo, I have also had my own business services company for about five years, from which I earn my living. I do my job as a gigolo in my spare time.”
Satisfaction
“It gives me great satisfaction to let a woman enjoy eroticism. With patience, respect, warmth and a sense of humanity, I often manage to lift a woman over a threshold. If I manage to let them enjoy and feel good (again), then that gives me great satisfaction. If a woman enjoys eroticism, then I enjoy it very much myself. Every appointment is exciting and thrilling.”
How much is a date?
“The costs for a first visit are €300 for 3 to 4 hours, all-in. If the date takes place in a hotel, the costs for the room will be additional. Add up travel time, gasoline and the costs of supplies and clothing and you understand that this is not profitable. But that is not the most important thing at all for me; I thoroughly enjoy my hobby. It gives me great satisfaction to let a woman enjoy eroticism.”
Make a date…
“For a woman it is often a big step to make contact with a gigolo. In general, a number of messages or emails precede an appointment. I also always send a few photos of myself. First with no face, then with a face and then in underwear. The first contact gives me an impression of the wishes and experience of the woman or couple in question. In principle I am available 24/7.”
Different types of clientele
“You can divide my clientele into 4 categories, with each category being approximately the same size.
1. Young single women
They would like to gain more sexual experience and find it exciting to make an appointment for a sex date
2. Couples
These are both modern young couples who want to try a threesome as the ‘icing on the cake’, as well as couples where the man finds it exciting that his wife has sex with someone else and where the woman finds it exciting that her husband is watching.
3. Divorced women
Most of them are recently divorced and have small children. A second group is separated as well, but has grown up children.
4. Married women
The majority of this category of ladies is in an unhappy relationship, where the eroticism also leaves much to be desired. A smaller second part has a partner with little time due to, for example, a busy job, they are bored and are looking for excitement.”
Fantasy come true!
“Many women generally take time to get aroused. I therefore always suggest starting with a non-erotic relaxation massage in which the woman keeps her panties and bra on, to relieve some of the tension. The second phase is an erotic massage of the neck, back and buttocks, which naturally transitions into the third phase in which the face, stomach and breasts are also caressed.
And then… make your fantasy come true! For example, many women have never experienced an orgasm through G-spot stimulation (squirting/female ejaculation). I always practice safe sex and always use a condom. Despite the precautions, I still get tested regularly for STDs, which fortunately I have never contracted.”
Good lover…
“In the Netherlands, ladies of pleasure are visited millions of times a year – it is not without reason that it is called the oldest profession in the world.
For men, it is justified that it is a distraction for them, an outlet, a way to de-stress. Women, on the other hand, are taught from an early age to ‘behave properly’. They are made to feel guilty and ashamed.
Away with double standards! For many women it would be liberating and very healthy to spend a few hours with a good lover…”
~ Would you consider booking a gigolo? Or is that not for you? ~