Dutch online women’s magazine ‘Sharna.nl’
The original article ‘Een gigolo op bezoek‘, from the Dutch online magazine ‘Oer digitaal vrouwenblad’, nowadays also known as a blog, ‘sharna.nl’. can be read here. The translated text of the article is written out below.
Text: René and Editors | Image: Flori Bets
‘A gigolo visiting’
When you search for the word “gigolo” online, René’s website appears among several agencies that feature a wide selection of gigolos. René is an independent gigolo who can be booked directly via his mobile number or email. We at Oer Digital Women’s Magazine contacted René and had the following conversation with him.
Can you tell us a bit about yourself?
I am a 38 year old white male with a college degree.
Do your friends and family know you’re a gigolo?
No, they don’t. There’s still quite a taboo around this kind of work. We may live in a modern country, but this is still a step too far to openly share with those close to us.
Are you in a relationship?
No, I’m not. I can imagine that a partner might struggle with the kind of work I do. If I were to start a new relationship, I would be honest from the beginning and tell her that I work as a gigolo. If she asked me to stop, I would respect that and quit.
What kind of women book you?
It’s a cross-section of Dutch society – both highly educated and lower educated women. While I believe there are more singles among highly educated people, that doesn’t necessarily mean I receive more calls or emails from them. The women who hire me are sometimes divorced, sometimes single, and occasionally even in a relationship. Every now and then, I also get requests from couples.
What is the ethnic background of the women?
About 95% are of native Dutch origin. The remaining 5% are women with South American, Antillean, Surinamese Creole, or Surinamese Hindustani backgrounds.
And the couples?
They are also mainly of native Dutch origin.
What is the age of the women you visit?
Their ages range from the early twenties to over fifty. On average, they’re around 35 years old.
Can’t these young women easily just get a one-night stand?
That’s not really the issue. It’s not that they can’t find someone, they just don’t feel comfortable picking up a man in a bar. They’re often wary of the potential emotional or social complications afterward. With me, they feel more at ease and know what to expect.
What age are the couples who contact you?
Couples are typically between 35 and 55 years old.
What do you charge for your visit?
I charge €300 all-inclusive, whether it’s for an individual or a couple.
Who can spare this amount?
Women with lower incomes usually can’t afford this on a monthly basis, but some still choose to book me occasionally. Most of the couples who contact me tend to have a higher income.
Do you have a regular group of women you visit?
Yes, there’s a small group of women I see once every four to six weeks. Most others I visit two or three times a year.
What about couples?
There’s also a small group of couples I see about three times a year, on average.
How long is a visit?
A visit usually lasts about four hours. After a drink – in my case, a coffee – we begin with a massage. I start with a relaxation massage, which gradually transitions into a more erotic one. From there, we become intimate and have sex. After that, we usually take a short break, followed by another moment of intimacy, and sometimes even a third.
What happens when you’re booked by a couple?
In those cases, I usually begin by being intimate with the woman, while the man watches. Later on, we engage in a threesome together.
How do woman or couples usually contact you?
I don’t get called very often – most people reach out via email. Before a date is confirmed, there’s usually a series of emails discussing their wishes, the price, and the date. Around 30% of the women and couples send a photo in advance.
Has it ever happened that a customer physically repelled you?
I’ve never experienced that. I see beauty in every woman, whether she’s curvy or slim, it doesn’t matter to me. Generally, the women who contact me share my values when it comes to hygiene and respect. Of course, I do receive vulgar emails from time to time, but I simply don’t respond to those.
Once I encountered a situation where the man treated his partner disrespectfully. I couldn’t handle that, and as a result, a second appointment was not an option.
Do you kiss your clients?
I leave that up to them, but I have no problem with it.
What is your position on safe sex?
I always practice safe sex and use condoms. I also get tested annually for STDs to ensure both my clients’ and my own health and safety.
Have you ever experienced women or couples asking for sexual desires you did’nt want to comply with?
No, that hasn’t happened yet. But if it ever does, I would immediately make it clear that I’m not interested.
Why do you do this work?
Many women experience little or no pleasure in sex. I enjoy being able to give them that pleasure and doing my part to make that possible. A lot of them also struggle with intimacy – sometimes due to past experiences, sometimes because of their relationship. These experiences can cause emotional blockages, and they hope that, through me, they can begin to overcome them.
How frequently do you do this work?
I have about two dates a week. I do this alongside a regular job.
Why do you work freelance?
I work as a gigolo for the enjoyment of it, so I don’t want to be tied to an agency.
Are you in contact with other gigolos?
No, I don’t know anyone else who does this work.